From safe sleep to car seats, infant care recommendations have changed a lot. Here’s how to get grandparents on board:
As child safety recommendations evolve, it can be challenging for parents, let alone grandparents, to stay current.
“When grandparents were parenting their own kids, they were working with the best information they had at that time,” says Lorena Kaplan, campaign lead for the Safe to Sleep initiative of the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.
When talking to grandparents, parents can frame the conversation around cooperation rather than correction. Doing what’s best for the baby means following the latest safety recommendations.
“Injury prevention is a science-based discipline,” says Dorothy A. Drago, the author of From Crib to Kindergarten: The Essential Child Safety Guide. “We don’t want to scare people, but we want them to understand that we know more now, and we can do more in the field of prevention.”
So what do you say when Grandma wants to put her fluffy quilt in the baby’s crib or Grandpa wants to take the toddler for a quick ride without a car seat? Here’s the rundown of expert consensus on keeping little ones safe during sleep and on the go.
Putting babies to sleep on their backs emerged as a strategy to prevent sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) during the early 1990s, leading to a dramatic reduction in cases of SIDS -- 4,073 babies died from SIDS in 1994, compared with 2,643 in 1999.
What began as the Back to Sleep campaign changed its name in 2012 to Safe to Sleep. It addresses many factors of a baby’s sleep environment, Kaplan says.
To reduce the risk of all sleep-related infant deaths, including accidental suffocation or strangulation in bed, experts recommend parents and caregivers:
Consistency in safe sleep practices is important, since unaccustomed tummy sleeping carries a high risk for SIDS. Babies who are placed to sleep on their tummies when they are used to sleeping on their backs are 18 times more likely to die from SIDS.
From rear-facing car seats to long-term use of boosters, current car-seat recommendations may seem extreme to grandparents used to the free and easy days of jumping in the car with kids.
But with more and bigger cars on the road driving at higher speeds, “it’s a different world,” Drago says. “The physics of a crash tell you that the bigger the car and the faster it’s going, the more severe the injuries you can have.”
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends: